by:
Charly Oscanoa ‘15
Domestic
violence, an atrocious form of violence, tends to occur in the
household usually victimizing defenseless women and children. Incidents of
domestic violence have become
more
frequent through the years, peaking in 2010. The term "domestic
violence" previously
referred
to urban riots prior to 1980, rather than familial unrest.
According to a study conducted
by Sara Shoener,
a public health researcher, "The most common barriers to women’s safety
were something I had never considered before: the high value our culture placed
on two-parent families.” As a result of this mindset, the majority of women
being abused have stayed in contact with their abusive husband. Society has
been blinded by the importance of having both a mother and a father but
neglects the even greater importance of a mother-child relationship in abuse
cases. Shoener recalls a court case that involved a fight over a custody
battle. Unfortunately, the mother lost and therefore has to drop her son off at
her husband's house every week. The judge is said to have claimed, after the mother's
refusal to the order, "You know what? You are just trying to keep this
child from his father, aren't you?"
Shoener's study also gave the
audience the notion that society had made a solid correlation between marriage
and success. Shame was also a leading factor toward women not leaving the source of
their abuse. As one victim said, "I don't want to be this young pregnant mom
who they say never lasts with the baby's father. I don't want to be like
that."
Even though
it may sound absurd, the majority of abused women choose
to stay with their abusive significant other because they believe that being a
good mother is one who marries the father of her children and tries to
strengthen the relationship between them. In a 2010 Pew report, sixty-nine percent
of Americans said that mothers who are without partners to raise their children
are bad for society. Sixty-one percent of Americans agree that both parents are
essential for the proper development of a child. However, this nation is not the only one that
suffers from this epidemic. In every nation there is violence but to different
degrees.
Today,
this issue has reached one of the largest incorporations in the world, the NFL.
This indicates that if it could happen to individuals who live in luxury, what
stops it from affecting the ones living in poverty. This issue knows no boundaries
when it comes to social status since anyone can result to violence in order to
release his or her anger. Domestic violence is not a minor offense in this
country and therefore should be made a national priority to improve our
resemblance to the American dream.